Truth about love, marriage and lived happily ever after

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Love towards an opposite gender is an emotion that should not be supressed. Love does happen and is very real. We all should pursue our love. Preferabbly love must end in marriage and the couple must live happily ever after. The fact is living happily ever after is an utopian worldview, not very practical.


When in love, as long as we don't spend long durations together, we keep missing the other and when we do meet our love, we have a lot of pent up love to express. Post marriage, there is no question of pent up love. The expression becomes far lesser. People who had been receiving pent up love pre marriage, misses the outburst of the expression post marriage. This often leads to the receiver of love outbursts feeling cheated. Consequently fights start. It's impossible to express love every hour or even every day. The same is the case with arranged marriages in the pre honeymoon period (getting to know each other where each find the other interesting and attractive) vs post honeymoon period. This is a down side or the other side of the coin of love.


When problems crop up, each of the sides feeling that they chose a wrong life partner is very common and understandable. Here too, one needs to keep in mind the obvious fact that there is no guarantee that a different life partner would be better. Fields are green from the other side of the river. We don't know how the other couples' houses look like, be it couples just for an year now or couples for 60 years. Married life will invariably have many conflicts.


It's better not to over exaggerate love or marriage. It's better to allow the people of marryable age to notice the lives of as many married couples as they can before they decide whether to get married or not. Marrying should not be mandatory. When someone do want to get married, they need to get married with full awareness about what to expect, they should be ready to manage conflicts, they should be ready to see other dimensions of their partner, they should be ready to see any kind of surprises. This way we will be better prepared to take ownership of our lives.


Living happily ever after depends on how prepared we are and how we face the situations life throws at us.

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